critics - Art, Jewelry, And Creations By Rafi Perez And Klee Angelie

Posted on May 1, 2023May 1, 2023 by Artist Rafi Perez — 7 Comments

Sometimes People Are Just Jerks

I received an email recently from someone who listened to one of our podcasts about facing criticism, and I wanted to share the experience with you. As an artist, we lay everything out there in the arena and experience a vulnerability that not too many people encounter.

The email went like this:

Hi Rafi and Klee!
I just had to drop you a line and let you know how much I appreciate you both and the stuff you are putting out into the universe. (Long time lurker over here! I’ve been watching your videos for a very long time now.) I like to listen to your podcast while I’m in the studio – it’s like having creative friends over. Also, please forgive this super long email.

In today’s podcast, Rafi mentioned that someone left a negative review on one of his books, and how ultimately he didn’t care, even though it dragged down his star rating. You have no idea how helpful it was for me to hear this! I have had books of mine on Amazon, and I eventually took them all down because I just couldn’t take the reviews. (They were just coloring books, but entirely filled with my hand-drawn original art.) In my second to most recent book, I was so proud of it. I worked really hard on it, and it was absolutely the best work I could do at the time. And guess what? The first review was a one-star review, absolutely eviscerating it. They even took photos of the pages they thought were particularly awful, some of which were actually best-selling prints for me. I was devastated, and I took the book down shortly after. I felt like I had produced a faulty “product”, not a heartfelt work of creativity, and it was my responsibility to get it away from the public. (I would later go on to give digital copies of this book away during the pandemic, and lots of people loved it and sent me the nice kind of photos, so maybe it wasn’t total trash?)
Your comment today struck my heart in a good way. I’m starting to see that the opinion of one random person ultimately doesn’t matter, and it shouldn’t keep me from putting my work out there. It sounds really obvious when I type it out, but it’s a real breakthrough for me!

That book is still off Amazon… but I just released a new one. Here’s hoping I don’t totally chicken out on marketing it! (To be clear – I never stopped putting my paintings out there… but I’ve been doing so in the quietest, most risk adverse way possible. For years!)

Thank you both so much for providing so much encouragement and wisdom! You are really making a difference in people’s lives for the better. Keep on being awesome!
Claire Chambers ~ Chickenpants Studio

Someone criticized this work and I sold it a day later.

As a creative person, putting your work out into the world can be a vulnerable experience. When you put your heart and soul into something, you want it to be well-received. Unfortunately, negative feedback can hit hard and be discouraging. This has happened to me countless times.

Sometimes a review can feel like a reflection of your abilities and that maybe you have failed. It’s easy to be devastated and be tempted to retreat from the world. However, you shouldn’t let one person’s opinion affect you.

Some people out there will be uplifting and encouraging. Some, not so much. Negative feedback is just part of the creative process and you shouldn’t let it bring you down. People are weird fickle creatures whose motivation is usually prompted by their own emotional state. The person who left the negative review was probably having a bad day and decided to take it out on the book. However, you show courage by releasing a new book and sharing it anyway.

Someone said something hateful about this, five minutes later this awesome person purchased it.

Experiences like this have taught me that putting yourself out there is scary but worth it. It’s okay to receive negative feedback, but it’s important to keep creating and sharing your work regardless. One person’s opinion doesn’t define your worth as a creative person.

Personally, if I listened to hateful reviews, I would not share art, podcasts, or videos. If you’re a creative person struggling with negative feedback, know you’re not alone. Keep pushing through and keep creating – the world needs your unique perspective and creativity.

People may use your art to blow off steam by attacking it, but your job is not to retreat. Your job is to keep pushing forward, persist and show how meaningless being hateful is. Only a handful of hateful people out there get a lot of attention because they can get under your skin. Ignore them. Don’t give them your power by buying into what they are saying. Just keep being your awesome self.

That’s why it’s also important to surround yourself with genuine creatives who will be honest and support you, because there is a BIG difference between constructive criticism and someone going out of their way to totally destroy someone’s creation. So, to the one-star reviewer who spent time taking pictures and feeling all high and mighty leaving a hateful review, “you can eat a bag.”

Posted on July 1, 2019June 30, 2019 by Artist Rafi Perez — 2 Comments

When A Harsh Critic Attacks – How I Handle It

Not well sometimes… but I’ve got some tricks up my sleeve that have helped me get better and better at dealing with poo flinging critics.

I think it is a necessary plight that one will have to get used to when you are putting yourself out there. I am an artist who creates art, music, writing, YouTube videos, and puts them all out there for the world to see… I get a lot of negative criticism.

People Can Say Mean Things About My Art And I Don’t Care

Comparatively speaking, I mostly get a lot of beautiful comments on my creations. We have a following of some of the most amazing humans I have ever had the pleasure of interacting with.

Yet, negative comments can still throw me off kilter, despite the overwhelming positivity I experience in the world. It’s almost like a temporary reminder that the world isn’t such a wonderful place… and there is an a-hole around every corner, just waiting to jump out and say you suck.

I want to be clear about something, I’m not talking about constructive criticism. Listen, sometimes even a helpful criticism can be hard to hear, and our first response may be to run away flailing our arms helplessly, but sometimes it’s valid. Follow the source and stop for a moment, get off your high horse and check to see if it is valid and constructive. If not, then we are talking about destructive criticism. If the criticism is constructive, then it’s intended to guide you and to help you improve as a person, not to bring you down and make you feel inadequate.

People Say Mean Things On My YouTube Channel All The Time, And I Don’t Care… Kinda… I’m working On It.

If the criticism is completely invalid, totally off, and only meant to hurt you, then that’s what I’m talking about here.

So what do I do when someone is all “blah blah blah you suck Rafi blah blah blah!” I Don’t take it personally. It takes a miserable person to try and make themselves feel better by giving some misery to someone else… don’t take it, it’s not yours, and it doesn’t belong to you. Understand that people who are in pain say really hurtful things, especially people that may know which buttons to press. Think about a time where you may have said something terrible to someone. Were you in your right mind? Were you in pain? Were you feeling like a victim? Some people live there in that place… don’t take it personally, unless you wanna visit and stay a while.

Recently A Friend Said Something Mean About My Singing And I Don’t Care.

Understand that it’s your buttons. Why is it that one person can be called ugly and not even react a little, but someone else will blow a gasket? It’s because we all have our own little triggers based on our own insecurities. So if someone says something and it bothers you, take a look and see if you can identify the insecurity or doubt behind the emotion. In my opinion, when someone says something mean and you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they are full of crap, you hardly even react, but if they touch on something that pushes on an insecurity it can be devastating. Just remember, they are your buttons. Figure out what’s behind it and sort it out.

Keep doing what you’re doing. Are you going to stop being who you are simply because someone spewed some garbage at you? Of course not. If the criticism has no basis whatsoever, then the best thing you can do is to ignore it completely.

Honestly, only very few people will talk smack, and I’m going to keep doing what I do… and they can kiss my booty.

Listen, people talk shit all the time because they are not putting themselves out there in the muck, sweating, bleeding and enduring the terrifyingly exhilarating ride that is fulfilling your dreams. They are going to say you can’t sing, you can’t paint, you’re not funny, you’re are not good enough, and everything else that they can say to destroy your hope and get you to stop. Don’t EVER let someone who is not putting themselves out there in the muck discourage you from going all the way. If they are not doing it themselves, and facing critics of their own, then they have no right to talk.

Don’t feel bad if you’re not able to push all of the negative words aside right away. It takes practice to work it out and get to a place where it’s no thing… But you got this.

Posted on March 13, 2017March 15, 2017 by Artist Rafi Perez — Leave a comment

The Critic Doesn’t Count, THE MAN IN THE ARENA

It was about nine years ago, when I ran across this excerpt from a speech by Teddy Roosevelt. This speech changed my life and my point of view of people who criticized my ability to succeed.

pa-hay-okee2 — Klee and Rafi traveled the country and challenged their old way of living, despite the naysayers and critics saying it wasn’t possible.

I am working on a video that is about taking negative criticism, so I’ve been inspired to share it with you:

” It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. ”

— Theodore Roosevelt

UPDATE:

Here is the video I recently did about some of the negative critics I have had, and how I deal with them.