Category: SHOP TALK With Rafi And Klee

Today, I want to have a heart-to-heart with you about something I believe is crucial for anyone embarking on an artistic journey or seeking to elevate their existing career. It’s the pervasive notion that we must wait around for validation, and I’m here to tell you why that’s not only unnecessary but also counterproductive.

Let me share a personal experience that might resonate with some of you. A few years into my art career, I was making a living from my craft alongside my wife Klee. We weren’t exactly raking in millions, but we were paying the bills and pursuing our passion. Then, out of the blue, a gallery approached me. It seemed like an opportunity to validate myself as an artist, a chance to be taken seriously.

The funny thing is, I had already been an artist for three years, showcasing my work and building a collector base. Yet, there was this lingering belief that being in a gallery would somehow validate me further. So, I joined the gallery, thinking it would be a great learning experience.

However, after six months in that environment, I realized it wasn’t what I had expected. Instead of enriching my creative journey, it felt corporate and drained my time. Meetings, gallery requirements, and an unpleasant encounter with an arrogant fellow artist made me question my decision. It was like I had gone full circle, entering the corporate world I had initially sought to escape.

My breaking point came when I stood up to that arrogant artist, who believed in the corporate hierarchy. I realized I didn’t need to be arguing with such individuals. I had a business to run, YouTube videos to make, and art to create. Leaving that gallery turned out to be the best decision I ever made.

Now, my intention isn’t to demonize galleries, as I’ve had positive experiences with them too. Instead, I want to emphasize the danger of seeking validation from external sources. It’s a pattern that extends beyond galleries, permeating many aspects of our lives.

In our society, we often find ourselves waiting to be chosen, validated, or approved by others. When you apply for a job, you’re jumping through hoops to prove your worthiness, hoping someone will pick you. Similarly, in the art world, we crave validation from galleries, awards, or representation, as if those are the only markers of success.

But here’s the truth: you have tremendous creative power, and you don’t need anyone’s validation. You don’t have to beg anyone to notice you, to say, “Hey, look at me, I’m an artist, validate me!” You are an artist because you create art, because it’s who you are, and it’s up to you to embrace that identity.

Question the status quo, challenge your own insecurities, and trust yourself to move forward. You might encounter people who discourage you or suggest that you can’t just do something without external validation. Ignore the naysayers, because they don’t define your path.

Your art career is an ever-evolving journey, and you are the ultimate authority on your life and your artwork. Trust yourself, but also question your motives. Are you doing this for fame, validation, or to be taken seriously? If so, you might be on the wrong track.

So, let’s break free from this cycle of seeking validation and choose to be the artists we are. Don’t wait for someone else to put that title on you. Embrace your creative power, trust yourself, and ignore the doubters. Remember, you have the ability to shape your artistic destiny.

I hope you found these thoughts food for contemplation. I appreciate each and every one of you. Until next week, adios!

So, let’s kick things off with a little story about change and the people in our lives. You see, when I started on this creative journey, I didn’t have a lot going on, and that’s when I realized that the people around me were a mixed bag. Some were incredibly supportive, while others were, well, not so much. It’s a tale as old as time, really. The more you push toward your dreams, the more uncomfortable it can get for those who are used to the old you.

And here comes the quote of the day, which I’ll paraphrase for you: “The more you start to see your worth, the less you hang around people who don’t.” Now, isn’t that a powerful thought? We often view ourselves through the lens of what others see us as, or we try to fit into the mold others have created for us. But as you start to change your mindset, to feel more empowered and worthy, you might encounter some resistance.

Think of it like this: You used to go to this dingy bar every day, where everyone would gather to complain about their lives and jobs. You’d sit there, participating in the misery Olympics, comparing who had the worst day. But then one day, you found yourself by the ocean, and it changed something within you. You wanted more out of life, to experience the world, to grow.

You go back to that bar, excited to share your newfound perspective, but what you get is resistance. They’re accustomed to commiseration, not inspiration. They might say, “You’ve changed, man,” and it’s at this crossroads that you face a choice. Do you return to the familiar, to what’s safe, or do you venture out on your own into the unknown?

It’s not an easy decision, especially if you’ve been surrounded by negativity for a long time. It can be isolating, and it may feel like the people you consider friends aren’t on your side. But remember, it’s okay to walk your own path. Embrace your uniqueness and trust your journey, even if it means leaving some folks behind.

Here’s the truth: Change is good. I’m not the same person I was a year ago, let alone a decade ago when I started on this wild ride. And you shouldn’t be either. So, if someone says, “You’ve changed, man,” wear it like a badge of honor. Change is a sign of growth, evolution, and self-discovery.

Now, let’s get back to the fun and craziness of this week in the studio. I’ll be having a blast, and I hope you will too. Remember, your worth is what truly matters, and how you see yourself is paramount. Anyone who can’t see your worth will eventually fade into the background.

I adore each and every one of you. Adios, let’s keep embracing the beautiful madness of life!