Life has a funny way of throwing curveballs. Sometimes, it’s a small bump in the road, and other times, it’s a full-on derailment. As a lot of you know, December threw a massive wrench into our world when Klee got pretty sick. And when I say a wrench, I mean one of those ridiculously oversized, cartoon-style wrenches that completely shut down the creative machine that is our life and business. To say it was a challenge would be the understatement of the century.
Honestly, it got pretty hairy there for a while. My focus became Klee—making sure she was okay, trying to keep things together, and, quite frankly, barely keeping my own head above water. When life demands that kind of energy, creativity, business, and all those other moving parts take a backseat. It’s like standing in the middle of a creative tornado and suddenly realizing you don’t even remember how to pick up a paintbrush.
A lot of hospital waiting rooms
But the good news? Klee is feeling much better! We still have a ways to go, but her smile has returned, and we’re both back in the studio.
Stepping back into that space after months of not being creative is… well, weird. Because getting back to “normal” after life has thrown you off course isn’t as simple as flipping a switch.
For anyone who has had life put their passion on pause, you know how tough it is to return. Things have piled up, been neglected, or pushed aside. And now, they all sit in front of you, staring you down like a boss battle in a video game you’ve never played. It’s overwhelming.
For me, I tried to keep things running while Klee was sick—I handled urgent things like orders and communication with collectors—but everything else? Yeah, it sat there, collecting dust and waiting for me to figure out how to be creative again. And let’s be real, I don’t just feel rusty—I feel like I have completely forgotten how to create art.
So, how do you get back into the groove when life has thrown you off your creative rhythm? Here’s what’s been working for me:
1. Start Small and Give Yourself Grace
Creativity isn’t a faucet you just turn back on. If it feels like you’ve forgotten how to do what you love, don’t panic—it’s normal. Start small. Doodle, hum, play with materials, move your body, do something low-pressure. The first thing you create after a long break will probably feel awkward, but that’s okay. Progress, not perfection.
2. Let Go of the Guilt
It’s easy to beat yourself up for all the things you “should have” done. Don’t. Life happens. It’s okay that things paused. The important part is that you’re here now, ready to begin again. Creativity doesn’t hold grudges—it just waits for you to come back.
3. Make Time, Even if It’s Messy
Your brain will try to convince you that you need the perfect setup, the perfect moment, or the perfect amount of time to dive back in. That’s a lie. Just show up, even if it’s for 10 minutes. Creativity thrives on momentum, not time shortage mentality.
4. Move Through the “This Isn’t Working” Phase
Right now, I’m working on a mural, a commission, and some new art. I am slowly (very slowly) crawling out of the “this isn’t working” stage. That stage is real. And it’s frustrating. But if you keep moving through it, even when it feels like you’re pushing through molasses, you’ll come out the other side. Trust the process, even when it feels like it’s laughing at you.
5. Do Something That Reminds You Why You Love It
Go back to your roots. Listen to music that inspires you. Look at old sketches. Read something that made you want to create in the first place. Remind yourself that you didn’t start this journey for perfection—you started it because it made you feel alive.
6. Be Patient with Yourself
Coming back to creativity after a break is like rebuilding a muscle. You wouldn’t hit the gym after months away and expect to lift the heaviest weight on day one. Creativity is the same. Give yourself the space to rebuild your confidence and strength.
7. Find the Joy in the Process
It’s easy to get caught up in productivity and deadlines, but don’t forget to enjoy the ride. Laugh at the weird mistakes. Let yourself play. The best way to rebuild your creative groove is to fall in love with creating again.
So, if you’re out there, feeling stuck, feeling rusty, feeling like you’ve lost your creative spark—know that you’re not alone. Life happens, and sometimes, it completely reroutes our plans. But creativity is patient. It waits for you. And when you’re ready, it welcomes you back with open arms (and probably a bit of frustration, but hey, that’s part of the deal).
We’re back at it, one brushstroke, one piece of jewelry, one idea at a time. And if you’re climbing out of your own creative funk, I hope you give yourself grace, patience, and permission to just start. Because once you do, that groove you thought you lost? It’ll find its way back to you.
And when it does, oh man, is it going to be awesome.
In this podcast, Klee and I (Rafi) discuss taking risks and going with the flow as an artist. Sometimes we may fail, that’s all part of the journey. But we will never experience what is possible unless we really go for it and risk falling flat on our face.
In this podcast, Klee and I (Rafi) discuss (among other topics) the unique reality of being artists during the holidays.
We dive into the main mindset shifts, challenges, and realities that come with navigating busy seasonal demands, balancing family time with studio time, and managing expectations during this time of year. Bottom line? Taking care of your well-being and staying grounded is just as important as keeping up with the holiday hustle.
Episode Title: Artists During The Holidays
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In this podcast, Klee and I (Rafi) dive into what it truly means to go for it as an artist. We share our experiences, challenges, and mindset shifts that have helped us push past fear, self-doubt, and the noise of the art world. Whether you’re just starting or deep in the creative grind, this conversation is all about embracing the journey, taking risks, and making art on your own terms.
In this podcast, Klee and I (Rafi) discuss (among other topics) the unique reality of being artists during the holidays.
We dive into the main mindset shifts, challenges, and realities that come with navigating busy seasonal demands, balancing family time with studio time, and managing expectations during this time of year. Bottom line? Taking care of your well-being and staying grounded is just as important as keeping up with the holiday hustle.
Episode Title: Artists During The Holidays
If this resonated with you, hit that Like button, Subscribe, and let us know your thoughts in the comments!
WHO ARE RAFI AND KLEE STUDIOS
Curious about who we are? Visit our website and get to know us and all we do. https://rafiandklee.com/
WANT TO JOIN US IN THE CHAT FOR THE LIVE PODCAST ON PATREON?https://rafiandklee.com/patreon/
Thank you for supporting the Artist Life Podcast with Rafi and Klee! You rock!
So, you’re planning a solo art show. First of all—hell yeah! This is a huge milestone. It means you’re ready to put yourself and your art out there in a big way. But let’s be honest—this can be equal parts exhilarating and terrifying.
Maybe you’re thinking: I have no idea what I’m doing! What if no one shows up? What if it’s a disaster? What if I trip over my own feet in front of everyone and become a viral internet meme?
Breathe, my creative human. I’ve done this, I survived, and I’m here to help you do the same. So let’s break it down—step by step—so you can put together a badass solo show without losing your mind.
Step 1: Find a Venue (Even If a Gallery Won’t Give You the Time of Day)
If you’re already working with a gallery, great. But if you’re not, don’t sit around waiting for someone to discover you like a Hollywood movie. You don’t need gallery representation to have a killer solo show.
Try This Instead: The Pop-Up Art Show Move
Find an empty storefront in a busy area and contact the owner. Many landlords would rather have something happening in their space instead of it sitting there collecting dust. Offer to rent it for a few days, clean it up, and make it look nice. Sometimes you can even get it for free just by promising to leave it better than you found it.
The key is thinking outside the box—coffee shops, breweries, coworking spaces, even an industrial warehouse could work. You’re not just putting on a show—you’re creating an experience.
Step 2: Curate Like a Boss
Now that you have a space, you need to fill it with work that makes people stop, stare, and say, Whoa.
What You Need:
Enough Art to Fill the Space – Aim for at least 20-40 pieces that fit a theme.
A Killer Name for Your Exhibition – Something catchy, intriguing, and meaningful.
A Showstopper Piece – One or two jaw-dropping, mind-blowing works that people can’t stop talking about. Bonus points if it’s interactive.
A Cohesive Experience – Make sure everything in your show feels intentional. You don’t want a beautiful, moody series about introspection next to a random painting of a cat wearing sunglasses. (Unless that’s the theme—then by all means, go for it.)
Step 3: Design the Space Like You’re Crafting a Story
People aren’t just coming to look at your art. They’re coming to experience it. The layout of your show should guide them on a journey—like a visual mixtape that hits all the right emotional beats.
Pro Tips:
Map It Out – Take measurements. Sketch a floor plan. (Yes, actual planning—it’s worth it.)
Create a Flow – Think about what people see first when they walk in. Where do their eyes go? Where do their feet go? Lead them like a mastermind.
Use Corners for Drama – Make people turn a corner and get hit with a moment that stops them in their tracks.
Avoid Bottlenecks – If you have a bar or snack area, make sure it’s not blocking traffic. People shouldn’t have to play an awkward game of Twister just to get a drink.
Step 4: Set the Mood (Because Art Is More Than Just What’s on the Wall)
An art show is a full-body experience. The art is the main event, but the atmosphere? That’s what makes it unforgettable.
Lighting Matters – Spotlights for hero pieces, ambient lighting for mood. Think about how light affects color and texture.
Music Sets the Vibe – Don’t just put on a random playlist—choose something that enhances the art. And no, elevator jazz is not the default.
Food & Drinks Are Your Secret Weapon – People love free snacks. Even something simple—wine, cheese, crackers—keeps people happy and lingering longer.
Make It an Experience – Could you add something interactive? A live painting demo? A guest book where people leave thoughts and doodles? A surprise performance? Anything that makes your show stand out from the usual “art-on-walls” setup.
Step 5: Get People to Show Up (Because an Empty Show Is Just You, Sitting in a Room, Staring at the Wall)
You’ve got the art. You’ve got the space. Now you need people.
Start Promoting Two Months in Advance:
Social Media Slow Burn – Don’t just blast “COME TO MY SHOW” 50 times. Instead, tease the process—show your studio, works-in-progress, close-up details, behind-the-scenes struggles. Get people invested before you hit them with the invite.
Flyers & Posters Still Work – Drop them at local coffee shops, bookstores, community centers, anywhere cool people hang out.
Press Releases = Free Publicity – Send a short, punchy press release to local newspapers, blogs, radio stations. Many will cover local events for free—but only if they know about it.
Event Listings Are Your Friend – Most cities have free event calendars online. Use them.
The One-Week Hype Bomb – In the final week, go all in with reminders, countdowns, last-minute teasers. The goal? Create excitement and urgency.
Step 6: The Show Itself (AKA: Don’t Panic and Just Enjoy It)
Don’t Stress About Sales – People hate being pressured. Just enjoy the night. If someone loves your work, they’ll ask. And if they don’t buy now, they might later—especially if the experience sticks with them.
Be Present, Not Salesy – Instead of pushing for a sale, share stories about your work. People connect with why you made something, not just what it is.
Thank People for Coming – Even if they don’t buy anything. Even if they just wandered in off the street for free wine. Gratitude goes a long way.
Have a Way for People to Stay Connected – A sign-up sheet, a QR code to your website, business cards—something so they can follow your work after the show.
Final Thoughts: Make It Fun, Make It Memorable, and Just Go for It
Look, I get it—putting on a solo show is scary. But it’s also one of the most rewarding things you can do as an artist. You’re creating an experience, sharing your work, and showing the world that you’re serious about this art thing.
So plan it well, make it an event people talk about, and most importantly—have fun with it.
Now go forth and make some art magic happen.
Have a solo show coming up? Tell me about it in the comments.
Watch The Video I created About Having A Solo Art SHow:
There’s a universal truth about being an artist: at some point, you will find yourself sitting across from a random business “expert” who has absolutely no idea what to do with you.
This isn’t to say business programs are all bad—some programs out there are fantastic for small creative businesses. But every now and then, the system spits out someone whose entire entrepreneurial philosophy is deeply allergic to creativity.
Take, for instance, my brilliant artist friends—creative powerhouses who could probably design an entire alternate universe if left alone in a room with enough coffee and a glue gun. They dabble in a variety of art—puppet-building, drawing, painting, animation, candle-making, writing, and photography. Storytelling is at the heart of everything they do, whether through short stories, photographs, puppetry, or a collection of unique candle scents. Their mission is simple: create something fun and unique to share with the world while embracing a life of adventure, travel, and boundless creativity.
Early in my career, I was told I was wasting my time and needed to get a real job.
They recently got into a really good business program that would give them access to a business coach, which sounds great in theory. A chance to learn, expand, and take their art to the next level. Except… the coach was the human embodiment of a beige PowerPoint presentation on “synergy.”
My friends, fueled by artistic chaos and brilliance, met with this coach, eager to share their vision. The response?
“Puppets are dead.”
I repeat: puppets. are. dead.
Now, I don’t know about you, but last time I checked, puppets were very much alive, thriving, and probably plotting world domination (because have you met puppeteers? They have plans). The coach then proceeded to tell them that pretty much, everything they were doing was wrong—not “needing refinement,” not “requiring a strategic tweak,” just wrong.
Puppets are not dead.
I’m sure he didn’t mean to sound like a robot programmed to discourage anyone who doesn’t sell widgets at Walmart, but let’s be real—this is a tale as old as time.
Artists and the Box That Does Not Fit
The biggest battle for artists isn’t making art. It’s dealing with people who just don’t get it. Many people love art and artists. But some have no idea what actual art is. Those people like art only in safe, pre-approved formats:
Big blockbuster movies? Love it.
Art prints at Target? Aesthetic!
Pre-made sculptures made out of recycled toaster parts with an interactive light show? What is this sorcery?
Too many business “experts” view creative careers through the lens of traditional marketing strategies. They want to fit us into their pre-cut, shrink-wrapped boxes, and if we don’t fit? Well, obviously, it’s because we’re wrong.
It’s frustrating, it’s exhausting, and it’s deeply stupid. Because here’s the thing:
Art is not meant to fit in a box.
Art is not safe.
Art is the wild, untamed, chaotic force that dares to bring something new into the world.
That’s why artists struggle when they encounter people who insist on the “proven” way of doing things. Those “proven” methods only work for things that already exist. But we’re here to create what doesn’t exist yet.
If we followed the “rules,” we wouldn’t have surrealism, street art, or the entire concept of animation (which, fun fact, was also declared “a waste of time” once).
Persistence is the only thing that shuts people up.
The Real Problem: Judgment Disguised as Advice
Let’s be honest, the hardest part of being an artist isn’t the work—it’s the constant judgment. It’s the well-meaning “concern” from people who act like we’re throwing our lives away because we don’t have a LinkedIn profile filled with business achievements.
It’s the casual dismissals. The naysaying. The patronizing conversations where someone talks to you as if you’re a wayward toddler instead of a highly skilled creative professional.
And I get it. It stings. It’s frustrating. It makes you want to throw a puppet at someone’s head just to prove that, no, they are not dead.
But I want you to remember something very important: their opinions do not define your potential.
At the end of the day, no one has walked in your shoes. No one knows what you are capable of. No one can tell you what’s possible unless you let them.
If they don’t get it? That’s their loss. There are plenty of people who will.
Artists are the kinds of people who figure their own way of doing things.
Some Advice for When the World Doesn’t Get You
Trust Your Vision – If your ideas excite you, they are worth pursuing. The greatest creative breakthroughs have always started as something that others dismissed as too weird, too different, or too impractical. Keep going.
Consider the Source – If someone gives you advice, ask yourself: does this person have experience in what I do? Do they understand the creative world? If not, take their words with a grain of salt. Some people give advice because they want to help. Others do it because they can’t handle anything outside of their own limited perspective.
Remember, Everything New is “Impossible” at First – The lightbulb was ridiculous before it worked. The internet was a joke before it changed the world. Animation was “silly” before it became a multi-billion dollar industry. Every great idea looks strange to the people who can’t see beyond what already exists.
Surround Yourself with People Who Get It – There will always be voices telling you to stop, to do something safer, to follow the well-worn path. The key is to tune them out and listen instead to the people who understand your vision—the ones who push you forward instead of holding you back.
Let Rejection Be Your Fuel – If someone tells you it can’t be done, take that as a personal challenge. The best revenge against doubters is to succeed in a way they never saw coming.
Create Anyway – At the end of the day, art is about making something because it needs to exist. Whether the world is ready for it or not, whether the business experts approve or not, whether it fits in their box or not—create anyway. Because what you make might be the very thing that changes everything.
So go forth and keep making things that don’t fit in a box. The world needs you, even if some people are too narrow-minded to see it.
I had someone reach out recently and tell me they were thinking about quitting their art because it felt too hard. That kind of message always hits me right in the gut. The last thing the world needs right now is one less creative force of nature. If you’re feeling the weight of it all, remember this: the world is already tough enough—your art is the spark that makes it brighter, more human, more alive. Don’t let the struggle dim that spark. Keep going. The world needs what only you can create.
Let’s face it—being an artist is not for the faint of heart. While others might spend their days carefully avoiding rejection and criticism, we dive in headfirst, like daredevils without a parachute. Why? Because creating art isn’t just something we do—it’s who we are. It’s how we breathe, dream, and exist. And with that level of vulnerability comes a unique kind of chaos that only creative humans can understand.
Your Art, Served with a Side of Judgment
Every painting, song, sculpture, or doodle you share feels like offering a piece of your soul to the world on a platter. And sometimes the world responds with applause. Other times? A big ol’ “Meh.” It stings, but you learn to roll with it because creating isn’t about universal approval—it’s about expression. Still, it’s hard not to take it personally when someone shrugs at the thing you stayed up until 3 a.m. pouring your heart into. Rejection? Yeah, we eat that for breakfast.
The Art of Financial Juggling
Then there’s the financial tightrope walk. Let’s not sugarcoat it—money is a touchy subject in the art world. One month, you might sell a piece for enough to pay your rent and indulge in celebratory tacos. The next month, you’re scavenging for loose change and wondering if ramen noodles are still 25 cents a pack (spoiler: they’re not).
But here’s the crazy, magical thing: in these moments, you learn to create your own sense of security. You realize that your resourcefulness is a superpower. Yes, it’s terrifying to live in a world where nothing feels guaranteed, but it’s also empowering. You’re not waiting for a paycheck from someone else; you’re building a life on your own terms. And there’s a rebellious kind of pride in that.
The “Real Job” Conundrum
Ah, society. Let’s talk about the charming way it loves to belittle creativity. “Oh, you’re an artist? That’s nice, but what’s your real job?” If I had a dollar for every time someone asked me that, I’d be lounging in a hammock on my private island right now.
Why is it so hard for people to see the value in what we do? Maybe it’s because art doesn’t always come with a dollar sign attached. Maybe it’s because the world’s definition of success is built around 9-to-5 jobs, retirement plans, and measurable productivity. But guess what? The world needs art. It needs beauty, inspiration, and the courage to dream bigger. And that’s what we bring to the table—no corporate ladder required.
Why We Keep Going
So, why do we do it? Why do we keep creating in a world that’s sometimes indifferent, often dismissive, and occasionally brutal? Because we have to. Because art is our way of processing life, connecting with others, and leaving a mark on the world.
It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. Every “Meh,” every financial freakout, and every “real job” comment just adds fuel to the fire. We create because it’s who we are, and that’s something no amount of criticism, ramen dinners, or societal doubt can take away.
So here’s to us—the brave, slightly insane souls who dare to make art in a world that doesn’t always understand it. Keep going, keep creating, and remember: your work matters, even on the days when it feels like no one is watching.
This year has been an adventure, a challenge, and, at times, downright overwhelming. We’re incredibly grateful for the support and patience you’ve shown us as we’ve navigated some unexpected obstacles. With that in mind, I want to update you on a change to the shipping schedule for Dear Artist, Don’t Give Up. The new shipping date is December 11, 2024.
The Reality of Life Behind the Scenes
Full disclosure: Klee hasn’t been feeling well for a few months. I don’t want to go into details of what’s going on, and doctors don’t believe it’s anything serious, but it has disrupted things a bit. We’ve had to cancel some plans and are doing our best to navigate through it all. As you can imagine, this has taken a toll on both of us emotionally, physically, and mentally.
You may have noticed that we’ve been a bit MIA from YouTube, and for our members, Patreon activity has slowed down. To be honest, I’ve struggled to motivate myself, let alone inspire anyone else, amidst everything we’ve been going through. We’ve had to cancel some plans and are doing our best to navigate things financially during this time.
One tradition we’re determined to keep going is our virtual holiday sale. Every year, it’s a way for us to connect with you, share our work, and spread some joy. This year, the sale is scheduled for December 8th, 2024, and we’re doing everything we can to make sure it happens as planned. Your support during these sales is invaluable, not just financially, but as a reminder of the amazing community we’ve built together.
The Book Journey and Its Meaning
When I wrote Dear Artist, Don’t Give Up, I had no idea how much of its message I’d need to hear myself this year. The words about persistence, self-compassion, and navigating the chaos of life resonate louder than ever. This delay is just another chapter in the story—one where patience, flexibility, and support from all of you make all the difference.
What You Can Expect
Here’s what the new timeline looks like:
Shipping Date: December 11, 2024
Audiobook Download: This will have been emailed to you automatically.
YouTube And Patreon: Our plan is to be back on YouTube and Patreon regular schedule in January or February.
We’re committed to ensuring this book reaches you in its best form, packed with all the care and intention it deserves.
Thank You for Your Understanding
To everyone who’s pre-ordered the book, supported our work, or simply reached out with kindness—thank you. Your encouragement fuels us on the hard days and reminds us why we do what we do. Life has its curveballs, but having a community of creative humans like you makes the journey worthwhile.
We’ll keep you posted on stuff. In the meantime, we’re focusing on taking care of what matters most and trusting the process, even when it feels messy.
Thank you for being part of this story. It means the world to us. ❤️
I am absolutely stupid excited to announce that the moment we’ve all been waiting for has arrived—Dear Artist, Don’t Give Up, Letters from a Rogue has officially been formatted and submitted for approval for publication! Yes, we are officially on track to ship these bad boys out to all you amazing people who were wise enough to pre-order! (Go ahead, pat yourself on the back—you deserve it.)
But wait! There’s more! Did you happen to notice something different?
🔥 Name Change: The title has been streamlined to Dear Artist, Don’t Give Up. It’s bold, snappy, and gets right to the point—just like the rogue advice I’m serving up inside.
🎨 New Cover Design: Oh yeah! The cover has had a makeover and now embodies all the rebellious, creative energy you’ll find within the pages. It’s loud, vibrant, and practically dares you to grab it off the shelf.
🗓 October 25th Ship Date: If you’ve pre-ordered, you can expect your book to ship on October 25th, along with some awesome goodies (because why stop at just a book?). Plus, you’ll be able to download the MP3 audiobook that same day, so you can hear me drop rogue wisdom directly into your ears.
Still thinking about pre-ordering? Well, there are only 20 copies left, so now’s the time! This isn’t just any book—it’s a creative manifesto for anyone who’s ever struggled with self-doubt, wrestled with creative block, or just wanted to smash art-world conventions.
Inside Dear Artist, Don’t Give Up, you’ll find chapters like:
Own Your Weird – Because your weirdness is your superpower.
Haters Gonna Hate, You’re Gonna Create – How to handle critics and keep creating.
Monsters Under The Bed (And In Your Head) – Tackling the fear and doubt that can paralyze us.
Keep Calm and Persist On – The power of stubbornness in the face of artistic challenges.
Finding Your Weirdos – Building your art tribe because, let’s face it, every rogue artist needs one.
From Zero to Art Hero – Because we’re all growing into the badass artists we were meant to be.
So if you’re ready for some brutally honest advice, hilarious anecdotes, and rogue philosophies that’ll inspire you to create art your way, this book’s for you. Plus, it’s the perfect excuse to ignore all those pesky art rules and smash through some barriers. I’ll probably release the Tee above at some point because I want one now.
October 25th is coming up fast, so grab one of those last 20 copies and join me in this rogue artist journey. Let’s make some art and break a few rules along the way!
Dear Artists, Don’t Give Up! Letters From A Rogue Signed Book
Dear Artist, Don’t Give Up is the kick in the pants every creative needs! Packed with heartfelt advice, snarky humor, and personal stories from a rogue artist who’s been there, done that, and probably painted it, this book is your trusty sidekick on the wild ride of the artist’s life. Whether you’re battling self-doubt, struggling with rejection, or just need a good laugh, this guide w…
So, I debated whether or not I was going to share this, but this is life. Shit happens. If anyone can relate or avoid a bad situation because they read this blog, then I’ve done my job. Also, I want to get some things off my chest and this is my blog, so I can do a little venting if I want to.
This is for anyone thinking about having a family member or friend move in with them, take heed. By reading this, you may avoid some future headaches.
Last year, a family member reached out and said they and their partner needed some help. As Halloween approached, we geared up to make some space for them. Ah, October. The month of falling leaves, pumpkin spice everything, and… people moving in with three cats. We generously opened our home because they needed a helping hand. The plan was simple: give them a rent-free, worry-free space to get back on their feet. But oh, the journey was anything but simple.
We are not exactly what you’d call “strict rule-followers or enforcers.” Our lives are a beautiful whirlwind of creativity, spontaneity, and a bit of chaos. But we decided to set a few basic guidelines to keep our sanctuary safe and harmonious. Four rules, to be exact:
Clean up after yourself and respect the space – because, seriously, we are busy artists, not maids.
Voice any concerns immediately – no room for passive-aggressive silent treatments here.
Be mindful of our schedule in shared spaces – an hour-long live stream is hard to do when you’re doing the pee-pee dance.
No food upstairs – because crumbs in the bed are a nightmare nobody wants to live through.
Spoiler alert: Every single rule was broken.
Your Home Should Be Your Sanctuary. It’s Important To Keep It That Way.
Ok, here’s the venting part… and yes, all this stuff actually happened.
The Mount Everest of Mess
First, the cleanliness. Or should I say, the lack thereof. Our shared spaces turned into scenes from a post-apocalyptic movie. At first, dishes piled up like we were training for the World Dish Stacking Championship. Outdoor furniture became engulfed by a mountain of smoked butts, and the ashtray overflowed like a smoky volcano. Inside the house? Well, let’s just say we were unaware of the fact that we became involuntary hosts of an unplanned indoor smoking lounge on the third floor.
The Great Communication Blackout
Rule number two, communication, went out the window faster than their cats chasing a laser pointer (Don’t get me started on the litterbox smell that would seep into the house monthly). Not a peep about their plans, their issues, or their thoughts. Instead, we received the silent treatment, the kind that made us feel like we were living in a suspense thriller. Every creak of the floorboards was a mystery, every glance (or lack thereof) a puzzle. It felt like living in an emotional haunted house where the ghosts were passive-aggressive. When I finally said something about having a conversation to clear the air, I was told that being forced to talk about things was “triggering.” This caused me to back off which was a big mistake. My backing off caused minimal communication to become virtually nonexistent.
If there is silent tension in the house, it will impact your health. We both experienced some chronic issues while this was all playing out.
Schedule? What Schedule?
And the schedule awareness? Nonexistent. Imagine gearing up for a live stream, nerves buzzing, creativity ready to flow, and bam! Both bathrooms are occupied. Having to pee does not make for a good pre-show warm-up. Timing became a daily gamble with laundry, bathrooms, and kitchen. Our productivity took a nosedive.
The Laundry Room Battleground
The laundry room became a battleground of epic proportions. We had graciously dedicated three days for them to use the laundry room and kept four days for ourselves, because Klee has a whole day dedicated to washing every towel in the house (and don’t get me started on the number of showers they took—our water bill saw such heights, that the water company sent people out to see what was going on). They would leave their laundry languishing well past their allotted days, and communication? Nonexistent. With our busy schedule, it became a frustrating mess. We naively assumed that, given their ample free time (ahem, no job), laundry timing wouldn’t be an issue. What we didn’t anticipate was the passive-aggressive laundry schedule war that ensued, complete with silent standoffs and dirty looks over dirty clothes.
The Upstairs Food Festival
The upstairs food rule was ignored. Our sanctuary turned into a buffet. Crumbs, condiments, mystery stains, and plates appear in places no plates should ever be. I’m pretty sure we found a whole ecosystem developing in their room. There were times when on their way up to the room, they would spill something in our hallway and then keep quiet about it. It was just weird. When I finally said to please eat dinner in the kitchen, I was told that eating in the kitchen was “triggering.”
Huh… that’s where my bottle of Tabasco sauce disappeared off to. I’m not going to show any more pictures like this. Let’s just say, it was not good.
The Dishes Debacle
At one point, I finally had to say something about the dishes. “Hey guys, please clean up after yourselves in the kitchen, I think it’s unfair that I’m doing any of your dishes and cleaning up after you.” The response? I was told once more that it was “triggering.” Ah, yes, the ol’ “your cleanliness standards are emotionally distressing” defense. The dish situation did get a little better after that confrontation, but even then, I found myself re-washing the “clean” dishes. Apparently, soap and water had become optional.
The Smoking Paraphernalia Scandal
When I finally mentioned the smoking paraphernalia mess taking over our outdoor seating area, the response was to hide stuff under the chairs instead of actually removing it. We discovered the extent of this creative tidying method in the most embarrassing way possible. A crew came over to film us for a documentary, and unbeknownst to us, the pile of nastiness was in full view beneath our feet. Nothing like a mountain of dirty smoking paraphernalia to add some character to your on-screen presence!
The Vacuum Cat-astrophe
Ah, the vacuum debacle! Imagine our shock when we discovered they were using our cleaning supplies and vacuum to clean their litterbox but never bothered to clean out the vacuum. They never used the vacuum to tackle the random debris they scattered around the house (seriously, how does one person leave so much debris everywhere?), but they did use it in their room. Eventually, our trusty vacuum was transformed into a fur-filled disaster, utterly useless thanks to cat hair clogging every nook and cranny. This was another delightful detail they failed to communicate. I discovered the extent of the cat-astrophe when I tried to vacuum up debris and found our vacuum was as useful as a wax teapot.
Whenever we had people over, the environment got increasingly awkward and weird.
The Shoe Pile Phenomenon
Among other special quirks, they left a heaping pile of shoes on every shoe tray. Seriously, it was just the two of them, so why were there 18 pairs of shoes piled by the door, rendering the shoe tray unusable for everyone else in the house? When I finally said something, I was hit with zero response. They removed some shoes that day, but they slowly grew to their former glory soon after. It was like a mini-shoe mountain that grew larger every day.
The Trap Illiteracy and Toilet Paper Conundrum
I’m not sure they knew what a drain trap or lint trap was, judging by the constant clogs and laundry mishaps. And although this might seem petty, there is a correct way to put the toilet paper on the roll. By the way, it wasn’t because they ever changed the roll—no, that never happened. They would, however, remove the roll every time they used the bathroom. I am still baffled by this behavior.
The Music Mutiny
We usually play uplifting music, instrumental meditations, or audiobooks as we go through our creative day. This was apparently also triggering. So, the house became this weird, silent place. They would also wear headphones all the time so they wouldn’t have to interact with us. Did I mention how this whole thing was just the weirdest thing I have ever experienced?
I would spend every morning reminding myself that I love this place and the negative energy doesn’t belong here.
The Writing Room Takeover
You guys know how I’m writing a book? Think again. Somehow, my writing room was taken over. I blame myself; I did tell them, “Hey, you can use this room for stuff, just let me know when you need it because I have a book I’m releasing soon and will need access.” Well, I’m guessing this meant the room was now theirs to leave their stuff strewn about, break lamps, and randomly lock themselves in there. Eventually, when they were in the midst of giving us the silent treatment, I took my room back, but I am dangerously close to my book deadline and haven’t worked on the book.
The Grand Exit
When they finally moved out, declaring that we were too triggering and emotionally hard to live with, they left us a parting gift: a nice reminder of their idea of cleanliness. Our home was graced with remnants of their stay, like a poltergeist who loves watching us pick up after it. To top it off, they took something personal to me. I’m sure they think they suffered under our tyrannical rule, but honestly, I don’t care, I’m just glad that they are out.
The Biggest Lesson I Learned From All Of This: Speak Up
Klee and I spent the last eight months trying to be as understanding as possible. Unfortunately, this meant letting a lot of things slide. Eventually, things pile up. It got to the point that we both felt uncomfortable in our own house. Speak up when someone is not respecting your sanctuary. A lot of this could have been avoided if I hadn’t been wearing kid gloves or acting like a doormat. Your space is sacred, and it deserves to be treated with respect. Don’t be afraid to assert your boundaries and protect your peace.
Allowing Time to Heal
After such an ordeal, we are allowing ourselves time to heal. It’s important to take a step back, breathe, and reclaim your space emotionally and physically. Healing is a process, and giving ourselves the time to do so is crucial for moving forward positively.
It feels amazing to have all my workspaces back… Without drama.
The Takeaway: Guard Your Sacred Space
So, what did we learn from this chaotic, rule-breaking, silent-treatment-giving adventure? Your space is sacred. Be fiercely protective of it. Set clear boundaries and enforce them, no matter who you are dealing with. Here are a few more nuggets of wisdom:
Communicate Clearly and Often: Don’t assume everyone is on the same page. Spell things out and check in regularly.
Don’t Compromise on Cleanliness: Especially, when you find yourself feeling like a maid.
Be Mindful of Schedules: Respect each other’s time and needs, especially in shared spaces.
Keep Food in Its Place: Trust me, you don’t want to discover what happens when food ventures into uncharted territories.
In the end, we survived. Our space is ours again, a sanctuary where creativity can flow freely, and we’ve got some pretty wild stories to tell. If nothing else, we’ve learned to cherish our home and the peace it brings. And next time, we’ll be a bit more discerning about who gets to share it.
This morning, amidst the ordinary rush to get my daily chores done, I found myself in a line at the grocery store, a place as mundane as any could be. Yet, it was here, between the aisles of cereals and canned goods, that I stumbled upon a reminder of the profound beauty embedded in our daily interactions.
As I stood there, meticulously arranging my groceries on the conveyor belt, I moved them forward and placed the small partition behind my items, an act as automatic as breathing. But today, this simple gesture caught the attention of the person standing behind me. A woman, her eyes meeting mine, expressed her gratitude with a gentle, “Thank you so much, sweetheart.” Such a small exchange, and yet, her words resonated with me deeply, stirring reflections on the power of kindness and the art of giving.
I love leaving small loving reminders around town for people to find.
It struck me then, how consumed we can become in a world that often emphasizes the act of receiving. We find ourselves in a relentless pursuit of what we can gain, overlooking the essence of what it truly means to give. And yet, here was a moment, as fleeting as it was, that illustrated the immense impact of giving, even in its simplest form. It served as a poignant reminder that love, in any shape or form, holds the power to transform the mundane into something truly meaningful.
Throughout my career, alongside Klee, we have endeavored to give as much as we possibly can. It’s a principle we’ve held dear, even though, especially in times of need, it’s easy to lose sight of this truth. The world can make you forget that at its core, it’s not about what you receive, but what you give that truly enriches your life and the lives of those around you.
So, on this day, moved by a moment of unexpected gratitude and reminded of the fundamental joy of giving, I wish to extend something beautiful to you. In the spirit of sharing love and light, I’m sharing a song we wrote some time ago. It’s more than just a melody to us; it’s a reflection of the peace and happiness we wish to spread in the world. My hope is that it will bring a smile to your face, warmth to your heart, and a reminder of the peace that comes not from receiving, but from the simple, profound act of giving. Listen to the song and I hope it brings a smile to your lips:
To everyone reading this, I adore you. Remember, amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life, never underestimate the power of a small gesture, a kind word, or a moment of connection. These are the threads that weave the fabric of our humanity, binding us together in the tapestry of love and kindness.
Let’s continue to give, in all ways, always.
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